A Letter From Nana

Zach, I asked your mom to post this letter from me.

You may not like what I have to say here, but it is time you start to be told some of the hurt and confusion that our family has endured and is still enduring due to the decisions that you made in the past.

Up to now I have made excuses for you, because in the end I know you were not alone in making the decisions you did. I mean, how could you? Many of things you said about your mother you would never have known unless someone else was telling you. And the false accusations were unbelievable. Believe me, EVERYONE involved in the process over the years knew this. EVERYONE. However you are now 18 yrs old, beginning your life as an adult and slowly you will become independent of your Now Family and hopefully start to make decisions for yourself. We can only hope that you can mentally break away from your influencers and open your mind to the other side of the story. Remember, every situation has two sides and you’ve only been told one side. Makes you wonder doesn’t it?      

The saddest part of this situation is that you and Cody don’t have each other currently.Yes, you are both very different, but you are blood brothers and NOTHING can change that. Most siblings have their differences growing up but for some reason you were willing to write off everything at 11 years of age and you had adults around you that encouraged you to do so. Have you asked yourself what type of person does that to a child? Forces them to throw away a brother? Cody has done a wonderful job of putting the horrible things your Now Family did to him in the past and leads a productive life. I can’t be prouder of him. He’s a survivor.  

The young Zach I knew was a warm, empathetic, compassionate, caring, thoughtful, and loving person. During the last 5 years you seem to have forgotten some of the family ethics and manners that were instilled in you, such as sympathy, forgiveness, compassion & gratitude.Your recent behavior showed the lack of these qualities. To cash your Mother’s $200 graduation gift without so much as a simple thank you is not the Zach I knew. 

In one of your last meetings with your Mother she said that you had no misgivings with me or Granddad, however you have not reached out to us once. Each and every day I ask myself, what have we done to be cut out of your life Zach? What terrible things did we do that we don’t get to enjoy spending time with our youngest grandson? The heartbreak and confusion over the answer to this simple question is mind-boggling. 

In closing, it’s not too late to mend fences. I would happily welcome you back into the fold knowing we all make mistakes and bad decisions. I’ve certainly made mine in the past.

I beg you to do some deep thinking and find it your heart to reach out to your Mother, Cody, your Uncle Gregg, Granddad or me. We never wished to hurt you and love you so very much.

Nana